Communication breakdown

I can't think of anything that frustrates me more than lack of communication. I think a lot of folks live in their own little worlds where they are the star of their own show and they don't think any of their plans or needs impact anyone else. So, they forget to or just don't bother to:
  • Put their events on the calendar
  • Add what they need to the grocery list
  • Tell anyone what they are doing until the very last second
  • Etc. etc. etc.


What I do and what I need to do and what I need to have bought for me (if I am not the one suffering through the weekly shopping and it's quite rare that I get a pass on that suffering) impacts the other people in my house. Of course, communication breakdowns can happen at work or in other parts of our lives also and the results are the same.

A little planning goes a long way to reduce confusion and avoid frustration, at least for me. 

I do everything I can to clearly communicate with everyone around me, often asking questions and repeating information to make sure nothing was missed and everyone is in the loop.

I wish everyone that had the power to add disruption to my life felt the same way.

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Shane Birley said…
Yikes, man. It is like you read my mind these days. I have had couple of experiences over the last year where I asked people:

"Hey, let's do this thing twelve months from now."

I would estimate that 80%-90% of the responses were: "Oh, I can't possibly do that since it is a year away and I don't know what I will be doing then. I can't plan that far ahead."

I don't understand people when they say that. They can't plan that far ahead? Isn't that the point? Do you want to do this thing that someone has suggested? You either do or you don't. Who gives a shit what you may have going on at that time since... you know, planning now would mean you are doing that thing you want to do with me. If anything else comes along you can either say "no sorry, doing this other thing then" or you can work around it.

There seems to be this attitude that some plans (even if they don't exist at the moment but are annual things) can't ever be changed. Why do we imprison ourselves this way is beyond me. I am guilty of it as well but in the last 18 months or so my attitude has changed drastically and I don't want to subject myself to that kind of attitude any more.

Hopefully, I will be able to stick to it.